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Post by Talaren on Feb 19, 2009 9:13:51 GMT -5
This is a rather serious question...aimed at everyone really. I'm curious to the many different definitions of Love that people have. Some Love appears shallow, some obsessive, some foolish.
I personally do not think there is any 'real' definition, it's something you make of it.
The younger generation (I can't really say that being 21 years old) seem to use it loosely, and I've decided they feel it's an expectation of their current 'commitment'.
The best way I've seen Love demonstrated is from my parents #1, and then my girlfriend #2.
My parents are always supportive, even if I fail. Despite struggles or success, they always treat me the same. I can always rely on them for help, except when I shouldn't have help, despite wanting it (Which I feel is a Loving decision). They provided for me, they put me first, the don't always agree with me, but they attempt to understand my decisions and provide their perspective.
I haven't always been a good boyfriend. I've been somewhat carefree and forgetful. It's been somewhat painful to my girlfriend, but she's endured it (and much other stuff). She looks past what she used to dream as the 'ideal' man, and has stuck with me, despite my many faults as a man. In the most respectful way, she does everything she can to better my life. She's much like my mother, I've found, doing things to better my life, except when I need to learn something from my mistakes. She desires nothing but that I remain honest and work hard at whatever I put my hands to.
What's Love to me? It's a difficult choice you make everyday, to be selfless, and think about someone else first. You sacrifice your life(lifestyle etc), to better someone else's.
Love isn't an emotion to me, it's a choice.
Maybe some of you old-timers with longterm wives/GFs can provide some insight (And others obviously!).
Maybe this is a weird topic, but I'm trying to discover the great amount of knowledge other people have out there.
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Post by badgernation on Feb 19, 2009 16:41:42 GMT -5
Gotta think on this one.... But you are alot deeper than I first believed
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Post by Talaren on Feb 20, 2009 23:18:32 GMT -5
One can only show so much depth on an online forums  . We'll peek deeper during the get together I'd imagine. Not many people taking a stab at it yet. Very curious topic. |
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Post by TW on Feb 21, 2009 0:43:46 GMT -5
Love is "enduring." No matter what, it wins. Someone said that it was never having to say you're sorry. That may be true, but I don't think that's it. We all get mad, and make mistakes. So, we will do things, and we have to say we're sorry, and mean it. Maybe that's part of it. Not only being able to say it when we're wrong, but accept it from someone we care for deeply, when they say they're sorry.
It's not just physical. Being nice looking, and having a good body is fine. But it goes away with time, and it's replaced by soft bodies, wrinkles, weight, aches and pains, and either loss of hair, or gray hair. We don't look the same, and even the physical aspect of love diminishes. What's left? More than you could imagine, if it's love.
That's when you find out how much you really love someone. If you care, you enjoy the same things, and have fun when you're together more than when you're apart. You actually become best friends. And guess what? You find out that the person you trust most in the world is the one you love.
But that's just me, and how I feel. I've only been married once, and we have 44 years in. Not bad, but we hope it's just the beginning, and we keep right on having fun for a long time. We've become part of each other.
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Post by packerconvert on Feb 21, 2009 12:27:24 GMT -5
Love is where two come together and don't say, "I'm sorry" or "I forgot" as they travel through life together....not a whole lot anyway. By being that way, it is obvious that both have each other as a center of consideration...most times.
Love is also a woman in thigh high boots, a tight fitting corset and can forcefully speak german very well.
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Post by badgernation on Feb 21, 2009 15:48:53 GMT -5
I personally do not think their is a love greater than that of love for your child....
You can love your wife / husband with all your heart for years... But one day that love seems to be less than the day before... and soon? You are nolonger in love with that person.
I have always gotten a chuckle out of the "Love is never having to say you're sorry" statement. Ido not believe that no matter how deep the love that at times you are going to say the wrong thing.... Leave the toilet seat up..... Forget some special date.....
And PC... That is not love... It's called being in heat...
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Post by packerconvert on Feb 21, 2009 17:04:31 GMT -5
Speak for yourself about love versus lust. When someone speaks of "never having to say they are sorry", I think that goes to relationships where genuine concern and consideration is given to the other person's feelinds and "needs." etc I have been in relationships where all you heard was , "I'm sorry! or "I forgot" as if it were a "get out of a sticky situation free card." I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry. Believe me when you hear those words too many times, they don't mean anything. If said rarely, then you know the sincerity of the person is true. |
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Post by badgernation on Feb 21, 2009 17:06:27 GMT -5
Speak for yourself about love versus lust. When someone speaks of "never having to say they are sorry", I think that goes to relationships where genuine concern and consideration is given to the other person's feelinds and "needs." etc I have been in relationships where all you heard was , "I'm sorry! or "I forgot" as if it were a "get out of a sticky situation free card." I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry,I'm Sorry, I'm Sorry.Believe me when you hear those words too many times, they don't mean anything. If said rarely, then you know the sincerity of the person is true. Nothing like taking something to the extream....  |
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Post by amoeba15 on Feb 21, 2009 19:33:42 GMT -5
"Someone said that it was never having to say you're sorry." "Love means never having to say you're sorry." is a line from the novel and 1970 film Love Story starring Ali MacGraw and Ryan O'Neal. The quote appears twice in the film. Once toward the middle when MacGraw's character Jennifer Cavilleri says it, and again as the last line in the film, repeated by O'Neal's character Oliver Barrett IV as a tribute to Jennifer. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_means_never_having_to_say_you%27re_sorry |
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Post by amoeba15 on Feb 21, 2009 19:53:35 GMT -5
Yup, the Amoeba has been in love before.
Relationships require give and take, mutual respect and sacrifices and doing the best that you can, to make each other happy.
However, most people whom I have encountered are selfish, shallow, do not have a clue about life, but have a very healthy and sexy body. Sooooooo, I give the babes what they want and confess that YES, I am in LUST.
I have met some sex-aholics and some beautiful women who simply need a friend. I would hope that I have evolved enough to help any person, without selfish motivations -- especially a beautiful woman -- without jumping her bones, who is in need of a good friend. To this day, I have honestly sacrificed much, by keeping my lusts on the sidelines and doing my best to help others who need such help.
Trying to determine who to trust and when and how much to open up to that special person can be difficult. However, I have always believed that people should not see others with their eyes because eyes can be deceiving, but people should view people from their heart.
My father told me that 'it is NEVER wrong to give from the heart.'
Now see, this is one of the reasons why I HATE being sober.
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Post by thegreenmeanie on Feb 22, 2009 10:18:48 GMT -5
It's nothing but a second hand emotion...
Do I score points with the ladies for knowing that song?
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Post by packerfanfran on Feb 22, 2009 11:05:24 GMT -5
It's nothing but a second hand emotion... Do I score points with the ladies for knowing that song? I'm impressed...you're a little young to even know that song.  |
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Post by sharpefan on Feb 22, 2009 11:11:28 GMT -5
Love to me is going fishing in about 60 degree day and just unwinding. You and nature can't get any better.
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Post by badgernation on Feb 22, 2009 16:39:20 GMT -5
It's nothing but a second hand emotion...Do I score points with the ladies for knowing that song? I thought that was called mas.... never mind |
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Post by WhatUSaid on Feb 23, 2009 16:39:03 GMT -5
Knew T was deep, he watches LOST.
I leave my opinions to myself, all I'll say is I don't see enough love in the world today.
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. We'll peek deeper during the get together I'd imagine. Not many people taking a stab at it yet. Very curious topic.
